Using social media or is it using you?

How do you use social media?

People use social and mass media differently, for a variety of reasons, and in a multitude of ways. Some users access media for community connection, to keep in touch with family/friends, share recipes, for entertainment, microblogging, creativity, to post animal videos, use their voice and be an advocate for issues, receive news, be informed, seek information, learn about events, be plugged in or “in the know”, to disrupt or challenge mainstream beliefs and dominant culture, to educate, broaden one’s friend circle, global interests, group participation, promote a business, communication, as a distraction, curiosity, a time-filler, an escape, a retreat, a safe space to interact, and much more. For many across the social media landscape, it’s a place to express yourself without inhibitions, be tapped in to what’s important to you, and be connected.

Social Media Wheel With Spokes  And IconsHowever you choose to use social media, understanding how and why you use it can help you prevent it from using you. Decide how best to use social media to benefit you. Be proactive and in control of your media usage and consumption. Draw boundaries around how you interact, with who, and for how long. Be mindful of why you’re accessing media and what role the technology plays and offers in your life. How does it improve or enhance your life? How does it make it easier? How does it add value? Or does it?

Consider your time management. Hours upon hours are often wasted on social media. For some, three hours passed in a time warp, you haven’t showered, you can’t remember why you got online in the first place, and dinner burned on the stove. For others, simply passing time is their desired goal. It has become part of the norm, the daily rhythm, and auto-pilot routine to constantly be connected to social media, for business, personal, and casual friendship purposes.

Being clear on why you choose the connectivity to social media and other media outlets may inspire where attention can be redirected or focused in your relationships. Become aware and honest about your role of engagement and the choices you make about your activities online, and within social media forums. Consider the ways you are using social media and how it may be using you.

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Make social media networks work for you. If you choose to participate, learn how to direct your usage and leverage your settings. Adjust your privacy settings. Learn how your information and data are used and shared, or sold by the platform provider. Circumvent as many of the content control mechanisms, despite the growing suppression of truth, and the rampant censorship across platforms. Be in control of how you use media. Be mindful of how it may be controlling your mood, brainwashing you, deterring, distracting, or detouring you from your innate truth, dreams, desires, and aspirations.

Don’t succumb to media networks or social media outlets’ desires to monetize your online and offline activities, and every action you take and movement you make. Periodically unplug. Shut the phone off, unplug devices, and turn the computer off. Step away from the screen. Step away from the matrix. Go off the digital grid.

Step away from the matrix...go off the digital grid.Break the social media constant engagement and tracking cycle. Value and honor your privacy and autonomy. Use discretion when you log your locations. Turn the location services off. Remove your demographic profile from FaceBook’s advertising settings. Disable app and automatic website sign-ins from FaceBook and Google. Lock down your profile and only share your photos, personal info, and content with the friend’s lists and groups you choose.

Screen Shot 2018-10-23 at 2.36.48 PMRegularly back up your files, your photos, and your content. Export and save your social media data before it is deleted for you. The social media networks are actively combing their platforms and deleting accounts, purging pages, groups, boards, and scrubbing away counter culture and dissenting views. Decide if the current controlled direction of traditional social media resonates with you, adds value, or depletes your energy and siphons your time.

How about something better, with integrity, with you, the user in mind? You decide how you want to use a social media technology platform. You’re in control of your content, and how you organize your data, wisdom, resources, and time. You get to leverage its interface and tools to serve you and further your cause, your purpose, and goals. A user driven platform from an empowered approach. An innovative way to use social media, manage data effectively, and in a way that honors your privacy, content, connections, and life. A platform for you to be more efficient, productive, and purposeful online and off.

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~ Melissa A. Curtin

 

 

 

A deep breath. Reset. Recalibrate.

Collectively, let us take a deep breath.

We are living in challenging times. Energies are high. Emotions are racing. People are frazzled – unhinged, on edge, and full of adrenaline. Nervous systems are amped up. Just when you think the news or politics can’t get worse, or more bizarre, it does. Or is it really worse, or is it our perception based on what we focus on? Or is it just how the media spin it and direct our attention?

The news media’s chronic dose of fear-mongering, its drama frenzy, the crafting of chaos, and the instigation and antagonization of emotion, continue to rile many of us up and ruffle feathers. This not only feeds the anxiety and panic, it gloriously thrives on it.

Even if you do not own a TV, have cable, or traditionally access corporate-owned news media through newspapers, radio or television outlets, — news soundbites, video clips, and headline fragments, are also pervasive throughout social media and widely available throughout everyone’s stories, feeds, tweets, and opinionated comments. All of this imagery and content can be overstimulating, upsetting, and jarring. It’s difficult to avoid the mainstream media news circus, the political dog and “phony” show, issues du jour, and pop culture’s influence — it’s ubiquitous.

Constant connectivity. Being plugged in, tuned in, and being exposed to an endless amount of external inputs, stations, channels, feeds, who to follow, maintaining a social media presence, keeping up to date with current affairs, the political pulse, what’s trending, which causes and issues are in dire need of your attention, and dedicating hours to those causes that touch your heart and rattle your core, can be exhilarating – and exhausting.

Pull back and observe how mass media deliver their messages and recognize how you feel when you are accessing and absorbing media. Watch where your energy goes. Media compete for your attention, your clicks, follows, retweets, likes, your eyeballs, and ultimately your mind and mighty dollar.

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Mass media lead with what bleeds, what’s outrageous and unfathomable, what tugs on your heartstrings, elicits shock, and what will generate the most emotionally charged reactions. The controlling elite’s desire to keep us in a rattled, hopeless, powerless state can be paralyzing for those who resonate with their fearful frequency. It’s not as easy to take action and mobilize activism efforts if you’re tapped out, emotionally or mentally fried, or triggered.

It can be laborious to integrate all the media content we consume when we have not had adequate time to process the information or digest what we’re fed and deliberately consume. Let alone effectively act to ignite change. If you’re overwhelmed to the point of paralysis. Or feel like you can’t keep up, or you cannot pull back or pull away from the media train wreck – even when it angers you, this may be a sign to reset. It’s seductive to be engaged, yet destructive when you’re so enraged, you do nothing. What’s worse is being stuck in this circular pattern within a media spin cycle of agitation that never ends – unless you unplug.

Avert overwhelm, panic, and this perpetual state of the social media fight or flight response by retreating from this emotionally stimulating roller coaster, on your terms. Do it for self-preservation and energy conservation. Taking a social media and mass media break is not recklessly turning your back on current affairs, or ignorantly disconnecting from “reality”, but instead, it’s a much needed empowering form of self-care.

Do a digital detox. Disconnect from your devices. Reset your mindset. Recharge.

digitaldetox1.jpgBreathe. Rest. Recalibrate. Tune in to your inner wisdom, your gut, and heart. Ground.Rest In The Forest, Concept Picnic In The Woods, Travel, LifestyMeditation yoga silhouette of woman on the Sea beach at sunset.

Connect with one another. Reach out. Join forces. Collaborate. Share wisdom. Be solution oriented.

Together, we can navigate forward if we are centered, united, and not divided.

Who benefits from us being divided and at each other’s throats, slinging cheap shots over the strategically placed political antics and shenanigans of the day? Dividing the populace over issues, racism, sexism, classism, economics, sexuality, human rights, and every and any topic they choose to manipulate only benefits the ones in control. It would be counterproductive and destructive for their agenda if we are centered, united, collaborated, worked together, joined hand in hand, and rose up — unified. We’re capable of overlooking our differences to realize that we are more similar than we are different. We’re not victims of their constructed agenda unless we allow ourselves to be victimized. We’re capable of not being emotionally rattled and driven by fear. And we’re more resilient when we allow ourselves to recharge and reset.

Stay grounded, be informed, be alert, and stay connected to each other, and to your own guidance system. Make time to reset, recalibrate, and retreat within. Access your voice and harmony amongst the media noise, social media pollution, fear-based sewage, and crazy-making chaos. Lead with clarity and with the vision you want to create. Transcend and override fear, worry, doubt, distraction, and confusion, — by tuning into your wisdom and heart and tuning out what doesn’t serve you.

Unite and work together, as we all recharge, recalibrate, and reset our own batteries and tap into our own power.

Breathe.

With Medel.la, there is another way to harness media, your content, and power.

~ Melissa A. Curtin